Why do we shake hands? || The Past That Shaped Us
Shaking Hands | The Past That Shaped Us | Kudos365 History Series
A handshake is one of the most familiar gestures in human society. Two people extend their right hands, clasp them briefly, and release. The exchange may last only a few seconds, yet it can communicate welcome, trust, respect, agreement, or congratulations.
We shake hands when meeting strangers, greeting friends, concluding negotiations, celebrating achievements, and marking important occasions. The gesture crosses many cultural and national boundaries, although its meaning and popularity vary considerably around the world.
But why did clasping another person's hand become such a widely recognized expression of goodwill? The answer reaches back thousands of years, to societies in which the open hand could represent peaceful intentions and a physical greeting could carry considerable social meaning.
Ancient Origins: A Gesture of Peace
The precise origin of the handshake is unknown. No surviving historical record identifies the first people to exchange one, and similar gestures may have developed independently in different societies. One familiar explanation is that extending the right hand demonstrated that a person was not holding a weapon. In societies where personal encounters could involve danger, offering an empty hand may have served as a visible indication of peaceful intentions.
This explanation is plausible, but it should not be mistaken for a documented account of how handshaking began. Historians cannot establish that the gesture originated specifically as a weapons check, nor that shaking hands was intended to dislodge a concealed dagger. What we do know is that clasped hands appeared in ancient representations of human relationships. In the ancient Near East, a ninth-century BCE relief from the reign of the Assyrian king Shalmaneser III depicts the king clasping hands with a Babylonian ruler. The scene suggests a gesture associated with political recognition or agreement.
Ancient Greek art also provides important evidence. From approximately the fifth century BCE onward, handclasping appears in sculptures and funerary monuments. The Greeks used the term dexiosis for the joining of right hand s, a gesture that could express greeting, farewell, affection, or an enduring relationship.
On some funerary monuments, the deceased and a surviving family member are shown clasping hands. These scenes demonstrate that the gesture could convey emotional and symbolic meanings beyond an ordinary greeting. The Romans likewise used images of joined right hands, associated with dextrarum iunctio, to represent concord, loyalty, and personal or political bonds. Such imagery appeared on coins, monuments, and other objects. By classical antiquity, the joined hand had become a recognizable symbol of connection between individuals.
From Personal Greeting to Public Agreement
For much of history, a handshake could signify more than a simple hello. In societies where formal contracts were less common or where personal reputation carried particular importance, physical gestures helped make promises visible. Joining hands could accompany an agreement, reconciliation, or pledge of loyalty.
The handshake did not itself guarantee that a promise would be honored. Its significance came from the social understanding that the participants were publicly acknowledging a relationship or commitment. This association between handshaking and agreement survived into later European traditions. Even today, people speak of sealing a deal with a handshake, particularly when they wish to emphasize mutual trust rather than elaborate formalities.
The gesture also became associated with equality, although that meaning was neither universal nor present in every historical use. Unlike bowing, kneeling, or other greetings that could emphasize differences in rank, a handshake places the participants in a relatively symmetrical physical position. Each person extends a hand, and both participate in the exchange. That characteristic eventually helped make handshaking attractive in communities seeking less hierarchical forms of social interaction.
The Quakers and the Growth of Everyday Handshaking
An important chapter in the development of modern handshaking occurred among the Religious Society of Friends, commonly known as the Quakers.
Emerging in seventeenth-century England, the Quakers rejected many conventional distinctions of social rank. Their religious principles emphasized spiritual equality, simplicity, and the belief that outward displays of deference should not determine a person's worth.
They were known for avoiding certain elaborate greetings and gestures associated with social hierarchy. Handshaking offered a relatively straightforward way to acknowledge another person without the formal distinctions expressed by bowing or removing one's hat. The Quakers support of handshaking helped top establish it as an ordinary, socially acceptable greeting among equals.
During the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries, handshaking became increasingly familiar in European and North American social and commercial life. Its use expanded alongside changing conventions of politeness, business relationships, and public interaction. By the modern era, a handshake had become an expected part of many professional introductions and formal encounters.
The Handshake in Business and Diplomacy
As commercial institutions developed, handshaking acquired a particularly strong association with business. It could mark the beginning of a relationship, acknowledge an agreement, or express confidence between parties. The phrase a handshake deal came to represent an understanding based on personal commitment, even when written contracts were absent. In diplomacy, the gesture developed a different but related role.
When political leaders shake hands before cameras, the exchange becomes a public symbol. It may suggest cooperation, reconciliation, mutual recognition, or the willingness to negotiate. The meaning can be especially powerful when the participants represent governments or groups with a history of conflict. A diplomatic handshake, however, does not necessarily mean that underlying disagreements have been resolved. It is a visible expression of contact or agreement whose political significance depends upon the circumstances. The gesture's simplicity makes it particularly useful in such settings. It can communicate a message instantly, without requiring a shared spoken language.
Different Cultures, Different Greetings
Although handshaking is familiar across much of the world, it has never been humanity's universal greeting.
In Japan, bowing has long played an important role in expressing respect and acknowledging social relationships. In Thailand, the wai, performed by placing the palms together, serves a similar purpose. In India, namaste, often accompanied by joined palms, is another established form of greeting.
In some societies, handshakes are customary but follow different conventions concerning duration, firmness, or the use of one or both hands. Religious and cultural practices may also influence whether people shake hands across genders.
These differences demonstrate that the underlying purpose of a greeting—recognizing another person's presence and establishing an appropriate relationship—can be expressed through many gestures. The handshake became internationally recognizable partly through the expansion of European commercial, diplomatic, and political conventions. Its global familiarity should not be confused with universal cultural preference.
What a Handshake Communicates
A handshake is unusual because it combines a symbolic gesture with direct physical contact. Extending a hand requires a small act of mutual cooperation. Both participants must recognize the invitation, respond, and coordinate their movements. The result is a brief physical acknowledgment of one another.
In modern social settings, people sometimes interpret the firmness, duration, or manner of a handshake as an indication of confidence, friendliness, or sincerity. Such impressions, however, are not reliable measures of character. They are influenced by cultural expectations, personal habits, physical abilities, and the circumstances of the encounter.
A firm handshake may be considered appropriate in one setting and unnecessarily forceful in another. A gentle handshake may reflect courtesy rather than uncertainty. What gives the gesture meaning is not its physical strength but the shared social understanding surrounding it.
A Tradition That Continues to Change
The COVID-19 pandemic demonstrated how quickly even deeply established social customs can change.
Concerns about disease transmission led many people to replace handshakes with waves, nods, verbal greetings, or other gestures that avoided physical contact. In business and diplomatic settings, greetings that had once seemed almost automatic became matters of personal choice. As restrictions eased, handshaking returned in many places, but the experience also reinforced the idea that physical contact should not be assumed or required.
Today, the handshake remains a familiar part of social, professional, and ceremonial life. Yet it exists alongside a wider range of accepted greetings, reflecting changing expectations about health, personal boundaries, and cultural differences.
Lasting Impact
The handshake has endured because it transforms a simple physical action into a recognizable expression of human connection.
Across centuries, clasped hands have represented peaceful intentions, affection, agreement, loyalty, reconciliation, and mutual recognition. Although the circumstances have changed, these meanings remain familiar in modern business, diplomacy, and everyday encounters.
Its history also illustrates how social customs evolve. A gesture used in ancient political and personal relationships gradually became an ordinary greeting in many societies, acquiring new meanings as ideas about equality, politeness, and public behavior changed.
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